I was born this way, so how can you blame me?

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So many of us ask this question, either about ourselves or about others. Lady Gaga has also most graciously written a song about it. With the progress we’ve made in the human genome project and our understanding of genetics in general, we are finding more and more things that ‘wire’ a person to behave in a certain way. So, we find ourselves asking the question, “If I was born this way, why am I being blamed? That’s not fair!” Let’s discuss the extremes we have when discussing genetic issues: “celebrating a disease” and “victimising the victim”.

First, let’s discuss what a ‘disease’ is…I promise, it’s relevant. For simplicity, let’s just use the definition from your local Apple dictionary:

disease |diˈzēz|
noun
a disorder of structure or function in a human, animal, or plant, esp. one that produces specific signs or symptoms or that affects a specific location and is not simply a direct result of physical injury: bacterial meningitis is a rare disease | a possible cause of heart disease.
• a particular quality, habit, or disposition regarded as adversely affecting a person or group of people: departmental administration has often led to the dread disease of departmentalitis.

A lot of us talk about disease in a negative sense, that’s why we have expressions like, “they’re treating me like I have some kind of disease!” When, in reality, a disease is just something that strays from the proper functioning or intent of the creature or object or thing. It’s a condition or a state. We’ll leave the discussion of “blame” for later. For all intents and purposes, a disease is simply some kind of aberration from the original intent of that thing. That can have positive effects, and it can have negative ones also.

Where does disease come from?

In a worldly sense, disease comes from a multitude of things. Often it’s because of some kind of radiation, or some kind of exposure that affects a gene’s integrity. If the gene is morphed or modified in some way, this leads to a different kind of “expression” of that gene. These exposures can come from so many sources, some of them are voluntary, and some are involuntary. If we pollute the world, for example, there are consequences on our genetics, and that can cause increased diseases (like cancer, for example).

So why is there disease in the world? Unfortunately, it comes back to that Garden, as usual. God created the world in a perfect balance, and He gave us the freedom choose what to do with it. When we chose to sin, we introduced spiritual disease in ourselves (we put something totally foreign into ourselves), but the whole world fell. We took knowledge that we didn’t know how to deal with yet. The more we interacted with the world, the shorter our life spans became, with the exception of a slight increase in the last century because of technology and science. Don’t get me wrong, this does not mean that all damage done to the world was willful and intentional, some of it was negligence and some of it was ignorance. We still are trying to understand this world. The Lord entrusted the earth to us, and commanded us to “subdue it”. We’ve done our best with that sometimes, other times we haven’t cared enough.

For the purpose of understanding things better, let’s discuss the various diseases and how we get them, so that we can understand this whole “blame” thing.

Causality versus Predisposition

Not all genetic malfunctions cause a disease per se, but some genetic factors predispose people to different things. For example, there are people who are genetically predisposed to addictions, we say that they have “addictive personalities”. They seem to have a genetic make-up that makes them more likely to become “dependent” on various substances.

I remember being taught in my intro psych class years ago that there are males who are born with a higher propensity towards physical aggression and violence because of factors during pregnancy and/or genetic factors. Both of these were out of his control, but the effects are possible.

In this kind of ‘aberration’, a person had no say in how he/she was born, but can end up with problems that he/she finds very difficult, and are different from the majority of society.

Causal Factors

There are some genetic aberrations, however, that do cause ‘things’ to happen. These factors are more easily studied. For example, cystic fibrosis, G6DP deficiency, auto-immune diseases, Alzheimer’s, MS, Diabetes and other diseases well known of late are strongly or entirely associated with genetics. There are some conditions in which certain controls can help prevent the disease from developing, because there are environmental factors that affect its expression. But there are others where the disease will inevitably rear it’s angry head, and the person is forced to battle with it.

Nature vs Nurture

So, genetics play a role in these diseases, sometimes 100% and sometimes less. This is the differentiation that is always discussed in classrooms: ‘nature vs nurture’. This refers to what kind of things are determined totally by genetics, and what environmental factors might affect things.

Take for example, the person with the predisposition to addiction. This person will not know that he has this issue until he’s tried the substance upon which he becomes dependent. If he is never exposed to the drugs or alcohol or whatever it is, he will not know that the genetics affect him.

In a bigger sense, our interactions with society and the world around us strongly influence who we become and how we behave. Imagine a world where social drinking and recreational drugs did not exist. The person with that gene would never know he had a potential issue! Someone who grew up in an environment where all they did was ride horses and cut down trees, might never become interested in flying planes or in engineering, even though he might have some kind of natural adeptness in mathematics or physics.

These are personality examples, but there are also natural factors that can influence genetic diseases as well. Exposure to certain environmental factors might facilitate the expression of an aberrant gene. For example, some people speculate that chemical toxins might cause the Parkinson’s gene to become “active”.

To test if something is 100% genetically determined, we usually look for genetically identical twins to see if both twins expressed the exact same thing. If they did not, it means that nurture is involved to some extent in the abnormality.

Celebrating disease

Today, there are certain things that we are saying are genetic, and we are told that we should encourage people to ‘celebrate’ the deviance from the norm. I am not sure how sensical or rational this is.

If something is a genetic aberration, what is there to celebrate about the aberration? The person did not do something astounding, he or she was simply born that way. If we, for the sake of argument, say that everything is a process of genetic evolution, if an aberration happened, then why is that saying that something was ‘meant’ to be this way? Evolution admits that exposure and various factors affect the evolution of a thing, whether positive or negative. It was an aberration; do we celebrate aberrations?

Should we “celebrate” Parkinson’s or G6PD deficiency? Should we have parties encouraging people to be excited about diabetes? It seems a little bizarre to most people, and yet we selectively do it with other deviances from other norms. If we want to encourage people in their battle with these things, that is noble, but our focus seems misdirected if we are spending our time celebrating the aberration itself.

Who’s Fault is it?

If we’re going to do the blame game, a lot of this is a result of the collective free will of humanity. Again, it all goes back to that garden fiasco as discussed above and in another post on this blog. But this ‘fault’ thing is sort of redundant and unnecessary because we have no control in it today, and nobody is “punishing” us, we simply have consequences from our choices. I hate this question, but I’ll humour it for a moment, but read to the end to see why this should not be our focus.

Let’s get Biblical. We’re all familiar with the story of the man born blind. The man’s born, the dude has no eyes, and the disciples very presumptuously inquire, “is this the parents’ sin or the kid’s sin that caused this disease?” It was an ignorant inquiry, they didn’t just ask the question, they were ready to pounce with the blame game. The Lord replied that it had nothing to do with anyone’s sin, and that the Lord would be glorified in it! He didn’t say that He made this person blind so that He could be glorified, He simply said that He would be glorified in it.

Now, what brought the glory about? It was the healing of the man born blind, it was not a celebration of blindness! The Lord did not say, “Blessed are you, blind man, you ought to rejoice that you have blindness!” He healed the man. He took his weakness and fixed it.

Now this sounds nice and simple, but did the Lord heal every living blind person? No, He didn’t. Why did He choose to heal this man? I have no idea. I don’t think anyone knows. We can meditate on different possibilities, we can appreciate that it happened because of the lessons we can draw from it, but we do not know why God’s grace worked with this person in this particular way (be careful not to assume that nobody else received a different grace!). The point, however, is that He did it, He expressed that it had nothing to do with sin, and the solution was to heal it, not to encourage someone to wallow in it.

Let’s look at modern society and point out the absurdity of celebration. Someone who has a genetic predisposition to addiction, is not encouraged to celebrate addiction. Someone prone to violent behaviour is not held unaccountable for violent behaviour. Society works on finding ways to support these people, to encourage them, to shield them where possible and to offer treatment where possible, even though some of these people find their greatest emotional happiness (not true joy) when fulfilling their natural dispositions. The thing is though, their “natural” disposition is not “natural”, it was natural to them because they were born that way, but it was not the way that things were naturally designed, it was an accident of some kind, somewhere along the line of our history. So let’s not be misguided in our understanding.

Nurture

This is very important, because we sometimes forget about our collective responsibility towards one another in society, and that our decisions and what we “normalise” have long-term effects on ourselves and society at large. We are affecting very strongly both the “nature and nurture” aspects of living, and sometimes get pulled into strong social movements that might actually be nonsensical at best, or hazardous at worst.

If we encourage the celebration of a disease, then we can forget what the cause of that disease really was. We can encourage behaviours that are not necessarily healthy for society in whatever way, all in the guise of trying to show love and support. The love and support is not to praise a disease, but to help a person. But if in our nurturing environment, we start to vote diseases as celebratory, what are we really saying?

What we need to nurture is wholeness in Christ and whatever that entails. We need to nurture what is right, NOT what is comfortable.

Warfare

Let’s get back to the spiritual dimension for a bit. We’re Christians. We believe that there’s a devil. If you don’t believe in the devil’s existence or his mission, then that’s your choice, but you’re not an Orthodox Christian if you do not. The devil has an influence on your body. In more than one story of our Lord’s exorcisms, it would be written that the person was deaf or mute or both, but as soon as the Lord commanded out the demon, the person was ‘whole again’. The devil is able to affect your physical health. So sometimes the devil has a role in things, and if we celebrate his work or don’t recognise something as a warfare, we normalise his work and actively encourage him to do work on us.

Sometimes the devil’s work is coupled with natural or genetic difficulties of other kinds, but his work is also real. So spiritual warfare and spiritual life is as important as all other “nurture and environmental” factors that affect health. This is part of spiritual health, and whether you know it or not, your physical and spiritual health are intrinsically linked. There is no life to the body without a spirit nor is there life to the spirit without the body.

So again, whose fault is it?

The question is actually irrelevant, it’s a state of being, a condition, and there is no reason to discuss blame because nobody is being blamed. Our Lord never convicted people coming to Him to be healed, even when the cause of the disease was because of sin. He simply told them, “go and sin no more” when sin was involved.

When did our Lord ever convict a sinner? When the Samaritan woman came to Him, He praised her for her honesty and converted her heart. When the woman caught in adultery was brought to Him, He first defended her, then reassured her that, “I don’t condemn you either”. There was never a message of blame, there was never a long discourse of, “You know that this is totally your fault right? You know that if you hadn’t done this, that and the other thing you’d be fine right now, eh?” None of that.

So let’s drop the blame game, and let’s not falsely celebrate, rather let’s do what our Lord did: transfigure.

Transfiguration

The proper thing to do is not to scare people or shame people in their condition – physical or spiritual – it’s to love them unconditionally, and to help them in whatever way that we are able. A person should not be afraid to say that they have a disease, they should believe that the Church is a hospital open to all. Rather than yell at a patient for being a patient, no matter what has caused the illness, we should learn how to treat the patient, support the patient, and bring Him closer to the true Physician. If He wants to be healed, then let him receive treatment, even if it means lifelong treatment! We’re all in treatment! If a person refuses treatment, respect his or her free-will! If we spend our time blaming, however, tell me why the person would ever approach us?

All of us have some kind of disease, physical or spiritual. When we have them, there’s no point in saying “well, it’s my wish/right/desire to have such and such”, unfortunately, what we’ve done to ourselves as a global community has made certain things impossible for some of us. A blind person can’t demand the right to see, no matter how much we sympathise with him. The blind person, however, may have to learn how to hear ridiculously well, he might develop his mind more, but he cannot waste his life wallowing in what ails him. Society can also become his eyes for him, while he becomes their ears.

The solution my friends, is to take our humanity, accept it, and then be transfigured! We need to do as the Lord did, He embraced our humanity in all of its weakness and frailty and glorified it! He took our weaknesses and transfigured it! If we want to be transfigured, then we must take the way of the Cross. The Cross was shameful and disgusting, but the Lord took it, carried it, and transformed it. The weakness became glory, weakness became might, death became life.

Be transfigured.

6 thoughts on “I was born this way, so how can you blame me?”

  1. Thank You abouna for this great message, I loved it but I have to say that our church is not the Hospital that is meant to be as you mentioned earlier. I think we still blame the people when they come from a different back ground, or culture or even just being different than us at least I do.
    I think we are still closed community not trying to accept differences and instead of going out and evangelising and being Christ like to other people, we are still occupied with the conflicts we have in church.

    I believe Christ’s message was clear when He said to be SALT & LIGHT, as the basic function of Salt is to give flavour to the food and the basic function of the lamp stand or a candle is to light the way in the darkness. I really wish we can be that Hospital that has 0 judgments to its patients and we also go reach out to others.
    Maybe you can write a blog or write more about how to be this Salt & Light to the hungry and thirsty world.

    Forgive me if I said anything that offended anyone.

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      Hi Andrew,

      I don’t disagree with you. We have a lot of work to do in the Hospital. I also sometimes wonder how many Christians still remember exactly what was the “good news” that the Apostles preached. But it starts with a small seed and it can grow, or as Mother Teresa said, “Be the change you wish to see in others.”

      I lament as you do, but let us start at Jerusalem so that we can take over Judea! 😀

      pray for me.

  2. Dear Abouna,
    May the peace of Christ our Lord be with you,
    I agree with what you said, but I’d like to add some points on genetics. This is because often we are bombarded with the “weight of the evidence”, and I think many Christians are overwhelmed with what they perceive as unquestionable science. I understand that your blog was not meant to be a science lesson, but nevertheless I thinks it’s important to share.
    We receive our messages from the science community in a lot of different ways, but in almost all circumstances, it’s coming from a media outlet that paraphrases what the science actually concludes. I read scientific papers on almost a daily basis, and I can testify that most of what is reported to us, is not what these studies actually concluded, but rather an extrapolation of the potential application or what is hoped to be found in further research.
    Genetics is one of the most popular areas of such reporting. The funny thing is, is that very few diseases can actually be attributed to a single gene, SNP ( single-nucleotide polymorphism) or genetic marker. This is despite the general opinion in society that every expressed personality and physical trait in a person can be pointed to in such a manner. While it’s true that some diseases or traits can be linked to a genetic marker, the vast majority of linked traits are linked to a complex combination of markers that can be identified in similar fashion in close relatives (primarily through paternal heritage) but that also present through a very different combination of markers from someone who is unrelated. Further to this, in a single lineage, through generations, this set of markers changes, such that it must be rediscovered all over again. And lastly, behavioural traits, are the least likely to be correlated with genetic markers.
    So if we focus on genetic markers correlated to behavioural traits for a minute, we will see the problem here, where arguing even for a predisposition. Firstly, as has been previously said, behavioural traits are the most difficult to correlate, especially because one is dealing with a moving target. But to drive the point home about the unlikeliness of genetic predisposition to behaviour, we must look at tightly controlled populations that have a reduced number of variables impacting the data. For this we can look at commercial animal breeding – namely pigs. Animals are housed in tightly control conditions, each having an exactly the same living experience – or at least as exact as anyone could ever hope to achieve for experimental purposes. Just to communicate some basis here, the pig gnome has also been decoded, and the physiology of pigs is remarkably similar to humans. In a tightly controlled population (thousands of generationally inbred animals, thus being the most likely to produce common genetic marker associations), where animals have been selected for behavioural traits, and where genetic marker correlations have been identified, the key variable impacting expression of behavioural traits still remains subtle differences in environment and nutrition – the nurture aspect of the equation.
    As a result, in the broadly diverse living environment of the average human, it is very unlikely that any genetic predispositions will have sufficient influence to impact behavioural traits. We are almost always a product of our environment, but fortunately we have have the free will and capability to break free from it if we choose. On a contrary note, one may argue the remarkable number of cases where twins separated at birth or adopted children took on behavioural traits of the biological families without ever having met them. I agree, that this is truly remarkable, but where is the case study showing that this is a distinct trend and not just a coincidence? How many people take note of when no apparent shared traits occur? For the time being, we can only attribute this to anecdotal coincidences.
    The moral of the story is quite cliche: don’t believe everything you hear . . . even if it does come from a so-called scientific source.
    We choose our actions, usually based on fundamental core beliefs and intermediate beliefs that shape and filter our perception of the world. But nevertheless, it is learned, and it is a choice. For most of us, the disease of [generational] sin does not manifest in genetics, but rather a faulty cognition – not faulty by design, but faulty in the years of construction from our childhood and impressionable years.
    In Christ,
    Marc

  3. Hi Abouna,
    I love your blog, it brings the perspective of the early church fathers but in a more modern day version for youth to understand.
    I was wondering though what resources does the LA diocese provide for our youth fighting this battle, how accessible is it to them, and why don’t we make the youth more aware of the resources they have?
    thank you so much for your time Abouna

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      Dear Bishoy,

      I am wondering the same myself! I will need to speak to some of the fathers, since I’m not originally from this diocese to know what is available. I would like to acknowledge though, that really, we fall extremely short as a church in this department and in our support. So let us all pray and work to fix that.

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